The Single Life

In June I will be 45 years old. I have never been married - I am heterosexual by the way - I do not have any children. And to think about it, I have never been in a long term relationship. Please contain your gasps of horror because there is nothing wrong with me.

I do like men, I like having them around, I like the attention, I enjoy giving attention. But I also like my life right now. I like having the freedom to do whatever I want when I want. I am responsible for all aspects of my life from paying my rent and bills on time to getting the assets I desire. I don't have to worry if my mate leaves what is his and what is mine. I am also willing to bet that I am not alone in this attitude.

Not that there is anything wrong with those who choose a couple life. If that is what you want, great. Some people - men and women - do better when they are in a committed relationship. They manage to handle finances better, handle stress easier, have better health and who knows what else. Some are lost when they are alone and need 'saving'. Which brings up another point.

I look at relationships and realize that there are a lot of men who seem to need to be the 'knight in shining armour'.(Probably some women too) The one who comes to the aid and rescues the beautiful maiden. If that turns you on, go for it. But then I wonder what happens when the saving is done and the maiden is doing fine. Does she move on? Does he lose interest?

I don't need saving. I am not being abused - I have never let anyone do that to me and I hope I never will. If I get into a negative financial situation I have to get myself out. I don't have any deep, dark secrets in my past that will bring harm to me if revealed. There is nothing that anyone can rescue me from.

Being responsible for yourself and your mistakes make you a stronger person. And although you can be in a relationship and still do this, it is even more apparent that you have to be responsible when you are alone.

That isn't saying that I don't want a person in my life because I do. If it is the right man then I am willing to make the necessary adjustments but I haven't seen him yet. For now I am content to spend my days working on my sewing, my writing, exercising and enjoying life. If I end up as a woman that lives the rest of my life alone then so be it. It doesn't make me any less of a person or any better. It just makes me me.

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